Tips for weddings by Wendie Bass wedding planner on Holly’s hot wedding tips
I love discovering new things. Part of those things are all the endless details that go into the whole event we call a wedding. I met with Wendie Bass, Weddings Events and More. I asked her what the ‘More’ is? She said the more is all the additional parties that go along with weddings, like rehearsal dinners, and day after brunches, so you can have parties around the wedding that last 3 to 4 days.
What don’t brides know about wedding planners?
Wedding planners are like Cinderella’s mice. Working for you behind the scenes. Wedding planners are your biggest help, we are not expensive and we can easily make things work for you. We are also the person on the day of your wedding that lets you enjoy your wedding. You don’t have to be coordinating your vendors, we’re there to keep the day flowing and moving and handling the guest’s needs. You get to enjoy your day and when you think about it, you’re really focused on who you’re celebrating with.
What are this year’s hottest colors? Several blues a lot of golds, also some copper and burgundy tones. Look for these hot colors to be turning up everywhere.
What foolish mistakes can I avoid making? Keeping traditions that do not fit you. Traditions to pass on are bouquet and garter toss. Pass on these and pass up isolating your single guests.
Enjoy the process – your wedding is the biggest event you will ever plan. Cost can be overwhelming, (the average wedding in Denver is $25,000) remember there is a beginning and an end. Remember to enjoy the process.
Don’t forget your commitment – there’s a process too when you decide the date and all that. There’s still a process to it but enjoy it because it’s fun and it really helps you understand that ultimately the big thing is that your celebrating committing to each other that day and that’s the big thing. DON”T FORGET THE COMMITMENT we’re all celebrating.
Good morning Wendie! You’re from Wendie bass weddings events and more.
What more do you do? Well more means everything because there’s more than just the wedding there’s other events too. It’s kinda wrapping up the whole package the whole time. Usually there’s always a rehearsal dinner or a morning brunch the day afterwards. But it’s all those pieces that come together because somebody has a vision of how it’s all gonna cohesively come together and flow. A lot of times that’s what the couples want. They want something that’s gonna flow for 3 to 4 days and the planning of all of that for it.
What common mistakes do you see couples making? They make foolish money mistakes. How so? They get caught up in looking at traditions that they think they should have. An example is a bride I had who bought silver bells, she didn’t realize with 300 people in the reception hall they wouldn’t hear the silver bells unless it was dead silent. The symbol of it was for them to kiss. She wasted her money because they were never effective. It’s a lot of times people realize there are ways to not spend money and still get the effect they want. That’s where a wedding planner comes in because we have knowledge we’ve seen things we’ve done things we have tricks up our sleeves that we can do. That sometimes we can do things that they want done and make it 10 times easier.
What are the most obsolete traditions that you see that are best to leave out. The garter bouquet toss. Really? Because it singles out the people who are still single and when everyone is married and there’s only one or two you kinda don’t want to isolate those people so those get put to the side. Trends that are really kind of fun are the anniversary dance because then we get to have the advice of those people. Garter and bouquet have kind of gone away because they don’t want to isolate their friends. That’s a really good point.
What is the best tip you have for a couple planning a wedding? Enjoy the process. It’s the biggest party you’re ever going to plan for a large group of people but enjoy the process. Don’t get tied into the cost issues and all of that just know that just enjoy it and know that there is a beginning and end to the process, and you’ve got to go through all of the stages before it comes to fruition but enjoy it. Have fun with it, enjoy the catering tastings, enjoy choreographing your first dance, and enjoy looking at different colors and looking outside the box and making your event unique to you. But enjoy the process, because it’s fun. When you think of it you’re gonna entertain in your own house you’re gonna do it in a much smaller scale. But there’s a process too when you decide the date and all that. There’s still a process to it but enjoy it because it’s fun and it really helps you understand that ultimately the big thing is that your celebrating committing to each other that day and that’s the big thing. DON”T FORGET THE COMMITMENT we’re all celebrating.
What are this year’s hottest colors? This year we see some blues a lot of gold, copper, some burgundy tones, the color of the year was Marcela but has a lot of colors that it can complement to so we see a lot of people expressing their personalities in that way.
What don’t couples know about wedding planners that they need to know. That we are their biggest help, we are not expensive we can easily make things work for them and the things they struggle with the most we can easily figure out how to solve those. We are also the person on the day of your wedding that let’s you enjoy your wedding. You don’t have to be asking the DJ for this or the time of day, we’re there to keep the day flowing and moving and handling the guest’s needs and such. You get to enjoy your day and when you think about it you’re really focused on who you’re celebrating with. So you’re like Cinderella’s mice. Yes. Excellent.
What questions should couples be asking that they don’t know to ask. Because they see a sticker shock with a price they don’t they need to ask, “can we pay this over time?” which I do I set my contracts so it pays out over time because we’re working on so many things and begin to see the value why I do that so it’s not a flat fee it’s negotiable fee. There may be things that I don’t need to be doing that we can negotiate with. If I know I’m going to be working with a specific caterer I may be able to give you a cut or discount on that fee because you’ve chosen this specific caterer. I can manipulate a lot of things to help you be successful and I can also find better pricing on the key elements that you want. I’ve got resources and knowledge about how to make some of these things happen. You may want a plan but you don’t have the money in your budget to get it but we kinda do a little manipulation we might find we can get your plan.
What’s the most unusual wedding that you ever did? I would have to say it was one that involved a lot of movement, and this was where it took over 4 days and this wedding was a mountain destination. And it involved a lot of guest movement where they had to be picked up at a certain point and moved off the mountain and all of that. Sometimes it’s just understanding that you’re directing a lot of logistics and for some people it gets overwhelming. But, it’s just kinda stepping back and knowing the logistics and having all the people and points to make the movement go more easily. Professional cat herders? Yes, that’s very true. It was one of those that it had those logistics that you had to deal with it took time to move people from one point, to another point, to another point. And planning your time to movement periods and realizing that it was a huge amount of guest’s interaction over those 4 days, by the end they definitely knew each other well. A lot of sitting in busses together. It was more sitting in a tram together or walking to a destination together that at the end it was just wow all these logistics. It made it seamless for them they just kinda knew, one it was good communication of what the itinerary was for the guests and then having well planned out for the movement of the guests and then what happened in those movement points.
Excellent, what was the most memorable wedding you ever did? The most memorable wedding I did was at a private home, and it was very much to that family and very unique to that family and that’s what I really like is that you make your wedding unique to you. Don’t cookie cutter don’t try to take it off of pintrist board. This is your unique statement to you about what your wedding is. I understand that, we were once contracted to do a Latin number with a big sombrero because there was a family history of a mystery guest at a Latin reception years ago. So we had to come in with a sombrero and they loved it for the bride and groom and taught dancing for the rest of the night so like you said this was unique and individual. Well thank you for coming Wendie!
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